Resourcefulness

Resourceful State (Part-3)

Confidence

Before talking about .....What Confidence is?
Let's first recall and rewind something related to some past believes in our life when we all really needed to get ourselves empowered. 
Can you recall of the time when you attended a bad presentation?
and
How about a good one?
What made them so powerfully Good or Bad...?
While in a class room when you were asked to introduce yourself...
You started with umm,,, hmm, My name is..... ahaa sorry myself ...Joe..!!
Hmm...

What are your belief about speaking in English among your friends or to a really beautiful  girl in metropolitan city?
I think you might be having a cold feeling or your heart beat must be racing like lamborghini ....
ha ha ha !!!!!!

I think now you can easily relate your experiences with the topic...
a resourceful state called confidence.

 Confidence is a resourceful state in which our body is in harmony to the situation how you respond courageously and without a fear in which you tend to be.

 We all face the absence of confidence in our day to day life, in speaking in debates, extempore in school competitions, in public speaking in front of big crowd, while giving an interview for jobs and many many cases in our life.

In life we all face this in many senarios , it's a very painful situation to bear. 
You know how much you lose, just because of this lack of confidence in ourself had lead your life to missed all the golden opportunities, bear the miseries, regrets and discontent throughout your life!!!!.

If you have this resourceful state, what amazing wonders you could have done in this life only, not that you have to take rebirth again for them to be fulfilled.
I had been very introvert person. Never considered myself worthy, and that resulted myself to be limited in my own world. 
But now I transformed myself.
Yeah I remembered  school days(distance between my house to school was approximately half a kilometers only) in which I kept waiting for my elder brother to catch me after the school, and there was a maid to keep an eye that no child would not go without his or her guardian. But that was the day my bother was late, as he used to come-by cycle after his school which itself was ten kilometers away from mine, I decided to squeeze out, at my own. Then what happened make me feel proud even today, I started quietly which I succeed in too, as the maid was busy in her work I got out of school campus. Some one told her that I have left the venue, she ran after me and I was running like anything, as fast as I can but she was unable to catch me as I was atheletic child too. That was the day I learnt that if you wanna do something in life don't wait for good time to arrive but do just opposite hit the bad times to reach you towards good time.
That was just a bit of confidence building step I revealed in my life. In life no-matter how much you wanna do something which passionates you always do it first because its your life take charge of it man, what are you waiting for?

 My saying to you is very simple.
What you all have to do is take next step in life, my mentor always say to me," Always take a first step in life, either there is a land in next step or there will be nothing , 
What will  happen If,,, if its nothing ... You are now gonna know how to 'Fly'"

How is confidence achieved ?
Either you keep on searching by reading  tons of books or
you can keep on searching for trainer for train yourself, but really you knew what the real thing is, you yourself !!! Yeah you have resisted,or blocked or obstructed, or deprived of or denied.. yourself.

Ha Ha sounds crazy na... but if you are going ask this very question today you gonna get straight answers today itself..

I can share you Five ways to get it.

1.) Strike the confidence which is by birth in you.

   I feel it's something that is always there, something you’re born with that gets lost along the way, or stolen by others. Sometimes you have to dig deep to find it again.  --A L Tempest

You didn’t come out of the womb uncertain of your cry . You came out blissfully unaware of external judgment, concerned only with your own experience and needs. I'm not suggesting that you should be oblivious to other people. It’s just that it may help to remember confidence was your original nature before time started chiseling away at it.Once you developed a sense of self-awareness, you started forming doubts and insecurities about how other people saw you. You learned to crave praise and avoid criticism, and maybe you started getting down on yourself if you got more of the latter than the former.When you start feeling uncertain of yourself remember: we were all born with confidence, and we can all get it back if we learn to silence the thoughts that threaten it.

2.)Know your strong and weak areas.

As you learn who you are, you gain confidence in your strengths and also learn your weaknesses. --Angela Birt

Learning who you are doesn’t happen overnight. For one thing, it can be hard to know which parts of you are you, and which parts are who you think you should be.A good start is to identify your strengths and weaknesses and then weigh those against what you enjoy. (If you’re great in sales, but you actually can’t stand sales jobs, then it doesn’t really matter if you have confidence there. Unless it’s all about ego—but does that really make you happy?)It might help to list five things you do well that you enjoy and five things you’d like to do well. Make an effort to utilize some of the first list and work on some of the second every day. As you use your strengths and improve where there’s room to grow, you’ll develop both confidence and fulfillment simultaneously.

3.)Trust your capabilities. 

No one in the world knows everything. Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others. Don’t weigh your security against what you know or can do; weigh it against your willingness and capacity to learn.Oh I knew what questions are wavering inside your mind! That's not different if it comes to human pyschology. It's obvious it's human tendency to ask such questions and search for the relevant answers.

If someone criticizes you, take it as an opportunity to improve. If someone does better than you, see it as an opportunity to learn from them. If you fall short at something, realize you can get closer next time. Don’t worry if you're not confident in what you can do now—be confident in your potential.

4.) Get ready to take risks:

Confidence is a funny thing. You go out and do the thing you're most terrified of, and the confidence comes afterwards. --Christopher Kaminsky

If you always do things as you’ve always done them of course you won’t feel confident.
When I first moved to workshops or seminars, I was highly insecure with people there. I’d moved a lot and spent years hopping around the country partly to avoid getting close to anyone or remained aloof, which never going to solve your problem. Get out of comfort zone.Eventually I realized the only way out was through taking risks. 

I had to crawl, walk, fall, and repeat to get comfortable with vulnerability and conflict. I made tons of mistakes, and a lot of it hurt. But I live a peopled life now, and it’s worth all the discomfort it took to get here.

5.) Learn to receive praises:

  Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement. --Don La Franchi

It’s amazing how easy it is to believe all the negative things people say and yet discredit the positive.If some of your friend come to you and say that you can do this thing, you without any single doubt believe it and in counter of it you never know your positives. Taking a compliment is an art. Sometimes, it’s instinctive to assume they’re just being nice or that maybe you aren’t really skilled—you just got lucky.
Occasionally, this may be true, but for the most part you earn the praise you receive. Don’t talk yourself out of believing it. Instead, recycle it into confidence. You did a fantastic job on your project at work; that means you can do it again. You had an amazing performance; that means you can trust you’re talented.
Other people want you to succeed. Now you just have to believe them when they show you you’re worthy.

Like anything else in life, your confidence will improve with practice. A great opportunity to do this is when you meet new people. Just like if you were the new kid in school, they have no idea who you are—meaning you have an opportunity to show them.

As you shake their hand, introduce yourself, and listen to them speak, watch your internal monologue. If you start doubting yourself in your head, replace your thoughts with more confident ones. Ask yourself what a confident person would do and then try to emulate that.

Watch your posture and your tone. Hunching and mumbling will make you feel and look less confident, so stand up and speak slowly and clearly.

People are more apt to see you how you want to be seen if they suspect you see yourself that way.

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You may have confidence in some areas and not in others; that's how it works for most of us. Draw from those areas where you're self assured.

If you feel inadequate in professional situations, recall how it feels physically when you're confident in relationships. If you're insecure in love, access what you feel when you're comfortable around friends.

Above all, remember you are capable and worthy—just as much as anyone else, regardless of what you’ve achieved, regardless of what mistakes you’ve made. Knowing that intellectually is the first step to believing it in your heart. Believing it is the key to living it. And living it is the key to reaching your potential.

“With realization of one's own potential & self confidence in one's ability, one can build a better world.” --Dalai Lama

       So friends you should be happy and full of joy in life. 
 So I pray for all of you to be in resourceful state i.e. Confidence in order to get progress in your life. 

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God Bless You  !!!!
Regards,
Shashi